Welcome to Day 3 of ‘7 to Unstoppable’! How are you feeling so far?
Today we are going to tackle emotion and vulnerability. Mental toughness does not mean removing oneself from emotion. In fact, true mental strength means being aware of one’s vulnerabilities, and striving to keep oneself in balance.
For today’s challenge:
Think of someone you have a difficult relationship with. Perhaps someone you feel a great deal of resentment towards. Call them today. Have a conversation with them and address why the relationship feels difficult for you. Be vulnerable. And then, propose to move on in good spirits. If they have done you wrong, forgive them. If you have done them wrong, acknowledge it. If the relationship is difficult due to other reasons, acknowledge the reasons and let go of the resentment.
For example, if you have a difficult relationship with an old friend, speak to them gently but openly. Acknowledge how you feel, and then propose to move on in good spirits. Point out that you are working on bettering yourself and would love for him/her to join you in your journey towards letting go of this resentment.
This conversation is meant to be difficult. Vulnerability, especially with someone you have a difficult history with – is incredibly hard. But you will come out of the conversation feeling lighter, and you will feel in much better control of your emotions.
You commanded your emotions, your emotions did not command you today. Give yourself a pat on the back.
How was this Day 3 for you? Shout out below!
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I have trouble doing this exercise. I’ve fired people from my life that arent there for my best interests and their own best interests. Negative people who I’ve wasted energy on attempting to help them get what they say they want. So all the relationships I have now I’m pretty content with. I don’t hold resentment or grudges, I speak my mind to that person that I love you, however this isn’t working for me in this relationship. This is a great check in for me because I dont think I could of said the same 3 years ago. I’m going to do more push-ups and see if I can hit 500.
Cheryl, that’s great to hear.
The point of the exercise is to not let resentment consume/control you. It does not have to lead to patching up any relationship that is broken, but to instead to acknowledge why you feel a certain way and let your thoughts out. Speak your mind gently, bid good wishes, then move on. Negative people don’t deserve to be held on to – but some relationships may not be full on negative, and you owe it to yourself to clear the air and lighten your mind. If you have already done that in your life, good on you! That is a great place in your life to be in. See if there is any lingering feeling with any one you have not addressed, that you can use today’s challenge for.
Otherwise, 500 pushups it is! 😉
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