FINAL day of ‘7 to Unstoppable’!

DAY 7: LONG TERM SUCCESS

Welcome to the final day of this challenge: Day 7 of ‘7 to Unstoppable’! If you have made it so far and have done all the challenges, give yourself a HUGE pat on the back! You are much stronger today than you were when you started this last Monday.

For this last challenge, we will be looking at long-term success. We will be committing to strengthening our minds for the long term so this challenge has its highest chances of success.

For today’s challenge,

1. Recognise one thing you do that could be sabotaging your success.

Think long and hard about your habits, your thoughts, and see what it is that is lacking, or you are doing that is sabotaging your chances of success. There are a few ways of doing this. Maybe you already know. Maybe you need to work on following through on every shiny new endeavour you jump into. That could be sabotaging your success. Maybe your time management really needs some work.
Or maybe you are just not sure. If that is the case, call a close friend and have a conversation with them. Candidly ask them their opinion of what they think could be hindering your success. If they are not sure how to respond, lead them on with questions like this:
“You have known me for a while and I would value your insight. What do you think could be my blocks when it comes to getting my business off the ground?”

“I think my self confidence (for example) really needs some work because of that time [give example]. Do you think it is my self confidence that could be an issue? Or do you think it is something else?”

“How do you think I could fix my inherent laziness so I can go find a more awesome job?”

If your friend still is not giving you anything, hang up and call someone else more insightful.

2. Once you have some valuable data from your friend, or you have already figured out what it is that is holding you back, create a mitigation plan.

3. Commit to holding yourself accountable to your mitigation plan for the next three weeks. Put reminders on your phone for this.

4. After three weeks, revisit this exercise. Have you built yourself up and started letting go of what was holding you back? If not, repeat from Step 1.

The purpose of this final challenge is to be mindful of what sort of habits you harbour or what sort of mentality you subscribe to. On Unpsychology, we are big fans of growing ourselves constantly and letting go of anything that does not serve our growth or success.

Once you recognize what holds you back from being more successful in your job, your business, your life, – and you actively work on acknowledging it – your road to success becomes MUCH shorter.



CONGRATULATIONS, this is the LAST challenge of ‘7 to Unstoppable’, and you have completed it! You have persevered, stuck with the challenge and shown incredible consistency. Consistency is SO IMPORTANT! Jeff Olson, author of The Slight Edge outlines and gives tons of examples in his book about how small consistent, directed action DAILY is the secret of massive success in life. I highly recommend this book.

(As a gift to you, here is a list of books I recommend if you are looking to achieve better results in several areas of your life)

Feel free to brag about completing this challenge to your friends: I guarantee you they WILL be impressed.

Leave a comment below with how you did, or send me an email! I look forward to hearing from you!

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Day 6: ‘7 to Unstoppable’

DAY 6: GIVING BACK

Welcome to Day 6 of the ‘7 to Unstoppable’ challenge!

Today we are going to move beyond serving our own needs by focusing on how we can serve others. Giving back is a habit you should cultivate because it puts you in an expansive mindset. Expansive mindset is always better than narrow mindset. Speaking in very broad terms, to be able to receive well, you should be able to give well too.

Let’s dive in.

For today’s challenge,

You have to go out of your way for someone, in the spirit of giving back.

For this, you have a few options:
– Sign up to volunteer at a local shelter/charity, etc within the next week. No later.
– If you cannot spare the time, find a cause and donate DOUBLE the amount of what you would usually donate.
– When you eat out today, leave the server a 50% tip.

This exercise might be harder for some people than others. Remember, this is SUPPOSED to be uncomfortable. The entire ‘7 to Unstoppable’ challenge is. But it is also highly rewarding.


How did you do on this challenge? Leave a comment and let me know below!

Day 5: ‘7 to Unstoppable’

DAY 5: INNER QUIET

Welcome to Day 5 of ‘7 to Unstoppable’! Look at you – almost at the home stretch!

For the last four days, we focused on strengthening our mind, our emotions, our bodies. They are all interrelated, and the best part is, the benefits of strengthening one of these spills on to the others too.

Today we will work on our minds some more. We will be making our minds quiet and contemplative, and then condition it to how we want. We are after strength and clarity.

Ready? Here we go.

Today’s challenge is:

  1. Find a quiet, interrupted place in your house. Sit in a comfortable position and slowly rid yourself of all the trivial thoughts in your mind. If the room is bright, turn off the lights – it will help you focus better. Or if it is daytime, just close your eyes. Now back to your thoughts. The phone call you had to return, your plans for the weekend, all those non-essential thoughts – eject them from your mind, one by one. This is NOT easy – we are used to crowding our minds to the point of chaos nowadays. So this may take some time. Don’t stress out too much though – go at it slowly. One by one, push trivial thoughts from your mind.
  2. Once your mind is sufficiently empty, we will go into ‘conditioning’ mode. Think how you want to feel this week. To make this easier, you can imagine how you want to be that is going to make you feel the best, most awesome version of yourself. For example: “I want to feel in control of everything happening around me” OR “I want to feel badass and powerful” or something else. Think of just one sentence. NOW, switch the “I want to feel” to “I am”.  Example: “I AM in control of everything happening around me” OR “I AM badass and powerful!” This is your affirmative thought for the day.

  3. With your eyes still closed, or the lights still turned off, repeat your affirmative thought to yourself over and over for a few minutes. You can do it in your head or out loud – depending on how you feel. I personally like to do it in my head.
    (Steps 1 to 3 should take about 15 minutes in total)
  4. Once your 15 minutes are up, open your eyes and leave the room. Now commit to spending at least one hour in silence without the use of technology, social media, etc. You can still go about your day i.e. do the dishes, get ready for work, etc. But for ONE HOUR, try to refrain from speaking to anyone or grabbing your phone to check Facebook.
    The reason for this is to keep you MINDFUL and FOCUSED on your affirmative thoughts, and not let the outside work detract you from the ‘zone’ your brain is in.
  5. After your hour is up, go about your day as you normally would, but try to repeat your affirmative thought to yourself every few hours.

BONUS: Try to do this at least once a week, starting from now. You will be amazed at the mental clarity you start to gain once you make a habit of it.

Day 4: ‘7 to Unstoppable’

Day 4: FACING YOUR FEARS

Welcome to Day 4 of ‘7 to Unstoppable’! Congrats on completing the first three days – consistency is so important if you want to build unshakeable mental strength.

Today, we will step outside our comfort zones a bit more. We are going to do that by diving into our FEARS.

The challenge today:

Identify TWO fears that you have. These could be fear of heights, fear of dogs, fear of crowded places, fear of public speaking, anything.

Now, do TWO things that will look that fear in the eye. 

For example, if you have a fear of crowded spaces, go to a flea market or an airport or a very packed bar and spend some time there. If you have a fear of dogs, go on a walk, and go up to the first dog you come across to pet it. If you have a fear of public speaking, ask your boss if you can give a 3-minute presentation at the beginning of the next meeting.

Everything you have ever wanted is on the other side of fear.

 

FACE your fears. PUT yourself in the place of discomfort. Stepping into discomfort is when growth happens.


 

 

How did that feel? Leave a comment below and let me know!

Day 3: ‘7 to Unstoppable’

Welcome to Day 3 of ‘7 to Unstoppable’! How are you feeling so far?

Today we are going to tackle emotion and vulnerability. Mental toughness does not mean removing oneself from emotion. In fact, true mental strength means being aware of one’s vulnerabilities, and striving to keep oneself in balance.

For today’s challenge:

Think of someone you have a difficult relationship with. Perhaps someone you feel a great deal of resentment towards. Call them today. Have a conversation with them and address why the relationship feels difficult for you. Be vulnerable. And then, propose to move on in good spirits. If they have done you wrong, forgive them. If you have done them wrong, acknowledge it. If the relationship is difficult due to other reasons, acknowledge the reasons and let go of the resentment.

For example, if you have a difficult relationship with an old friend, speak to them gently but openly. Acknowledge how you feel, and then propose to move on in good spirits. Point out that you are working on bettering yourself and would love for him/her to join you in your journey towards letting go of this resentment.

This conversation is meant to be difficult. Vulnerability, especially with someone you have a difficult history with – is incredibly hard. But you will come out of the conversation feeling lighter, and you will feel in much better control of your emotions.

You commanded your emotions, your emotions did not command you today. Give yourself a pat on the back. 


How was this Day 3 for you? Shout out below!

‘7 to Unstoppable’ – Mental Toughness Challenge starts March 30

Strength – any kind of strength – starts with the mind. If you master your mind, you can literally be unstoppable. Ask any Olympian, Ironman, Buddhist monk, or anyone accomplishing feats that seem near-impossible to the rest of us. Their response will be ‘Prepare your mind, and the rest will follow.’

At UnPsychology, we are all about bettering ourselves. We do this through continued education, reading, personal challenges, conscious self-improvement and pushing us ourselves outside our comfort zones.

Right outside your comfort zone is when growth happens.

On March 30th, I will be putting up a 7-day mental toughness challenge. It will feature one mind/body challenge every day that will push you outside your comfort zone. Not only will the challenges make you stronger day by day, it will also fill you with growing confidence regarding your abilities.

Remember: No discomfort, no growth.

 

If you are interested in the ‘7 to Unstoppable’ challenge, sign up below. You will get an email reminder the day before so you can mentally prepare.

 

This is very much worth remembering

It is easy to make someone feel insignificant, whether it is to create a false sense of self-importance or otherwise. But to be able to make another human being feel important, to make them feel like their views truly matter.. That is a very special gift.

After all, people will never forget how you have made them FEEL.

‘Core beliefs’ and how they shape everything about you

Yesterday I was having coffee with a friend of mine who is a teacher. She was telling me about this student she has in her class who seems to ‘always be in trouble’.

We have all known that guy/girl growing up, who just seems to always get in trouble. They may be up to no good perpetually, or once in a while, you will see that these people don’t do anything out of the ordinary, but get into trouble regardless. You feel sorry for them, they feel sorry for themselves, then everyone laughs and moves on.

But if you trace it back, there is a point where this started. There always is.

Take the student my friend was talking about for example. She took the student aside and they talked for a long time. Turns out, this student got ‘in trouble’ for the first time when she was in kindergarten. She had been sitting in class, zoning out into her own world, while rubbing two pencils together. Maybe she was thinking of the last Dora The Explorer episode she saw, or she was dreaming up a whole scenario of games she would play later with her friends that evening. But her teacher at the time suddenly noticed this little girl rubbing two pencils together, and raised an alarm. She thought the little girl was trying to burn down the school. Poor girl was taken to the principal’s office, sent home, and was suggested disciplinary action.

This occurrence obviously affected a 5 year old girl, because the message she got was that she got in trouble – for not doing anything wrong.

90% of a human being’s perceptions and beliefs are developed before they turn ten. So at the ripe age of five, this occurrence just got deeply entrenched in her brain, and became one of her ‘core beliefs’.

When you carry a core belief through to adulthood, a majority of your actions stem from that belief. If one of your core beliefs state that you are ‘generous and caring’, you will likely be in situations where your genuine care and helpfulness are frequently called upon. Because your core beliefs dictate how you BEHAVE, which in turn dictate the type of people you attract and the type of situations you create around yourself. If you grow up with a core belief that you are always ‘in trouble’, you will inadvertently find yourself in situations where you end up in trouble.

I always find it very interesting when some people say they got walked all over, and when you ask some more questions, you will find that they have a pattern of this type of behavior. Same goes for people who seem to just ‘win’ at everything in life. They are the ones that get the job, get the promotion, get the girl/guy, etc. It’s a pattern. And patterns stem from core beliefs.

Are there any patterns that you happen to notice in your life? Where do you think they stem from?

One of the greatest gifts in life is identifying those who love and care for you deeply and unconditionally. When you find these people, hold on to them tight and express gratitude, love and sincerity.
Be careful not to squander their love and push them away because of  your own internal voices and insecurities, because that may just as well be one of life’s greatest tragedies. 

Got ‘laid off’? How this can be a FANTASTIC time

One week everything is normal at work, and the next week you get the grave news that your company is cutting a few jobs and you happen to be one of the unfortunate ones. Perhaps you saw it coming, or maybe you were completely blindsided.

Either way, a lay-off is an EXCELLENT time to really achieve things you simply did not have time for when you were working full-time. Let us assume you have been responsible with your finances and regularly put a chunk of your income away for a ‘rainy day’. Instead of wallowing in misery and throwing yourself into panicked job-search frenzy, consider taking this time for the following areas in your life:

  1. Travel. This is my number one suggestion for anyone who gets laid off. Travelling is something everyone wants to do, but work commitments seem to be one of the first things that get in the way for professionals. But a lay-off is the PERFECT time to lets say, go explore Bali and spend a couple of weeks living your travel dream. Or how about visiting a family member who lives in Australia? Just find a good cheap flight, and GO!
  2. Bucket list items. This goes hand in hand with point 1. Always wanted to hike the Machu Pichu? Though about spending a week holed up in a cabin to work on that novel? Now is the time.
  3. Pursue your passions. Did you come home every evening after work, looking forward to working on your hobby, and wished you had more time? Well, now you do. Whether it is training for a triathlon, writing that book, or working on your bicycle, you can now give it your 100%.
  4. Time for family. If you were a hard working professional, your family probably did not see much of you. Take this opportunity to spend time with them and really connect with every family member. They will truly appreciate it. You will be glad you got to do when you had the chance.
  5. Re-assess. Step back and re-assess your career, industry and if that is truly where you belong. Maybe you want to change industries completely, or maybe you are happy where you are and you want to pursue some courses to further your credentials. Take this time to do it.
  6. Launch your own business. Finally, if you wanted to venture out into entrepreneurship or freelancing, there has never been a better time. You have absolutely nothing to lose pursuing something independent at a time such as this.

So make good use of your time now, before launching yourself back into the job-hunt. Because as they say.. don’t forget to make a memorable life, as you are busy trying to make a living.


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